Well today is the big day--paint is going up on the walls. It's really crazy. Our walls were all white stock paint before and as the beige and crimson goes up, I'm amazed at the difference. It's actually starting to look like a home. I hope that when Indy comes home he thinks the improvement is worth the lost sleep.
I look at other couples sometimes and the petty disagreements that they have over groceries or bills. Indy and I have been through a lot together. I think that the problems we've had to deal with have made us a stronger couple. Somehow, we can look at a situation and figure out how to make everything work instead of getting mad or frustrated with one another. I don't even know how we always manage to make things work out. I think it's faith. The belief that things will work out has somehow helped them to work out.
We're young. We had a child, got married, both managed to finish our college degrees with a young child, worried about jobs, and went through a cancer scare last year when I had the minor melanoma. Our challenges have made our love so strong that looking around, we can't understand some of the reasons relationships struggle.
If I had any advice for other couples I would probably tell people to let go of their selfish and petty concerns. When I see people in a tizzy over going out or buying a car, I just want to tell them to grow up. When you've committed your life to another person, you've traded in your two individual lives for one beautiful one. I'm not saying that having personal interests and time is a bad thing--everyone needs their space sometimes, but priorities in life should not be based on bargaining. If one person wins and another loses in discussions, there's a problem with the relationship. Relationships (including friendships) need to be a partnership where compromise and heart is in the conversations.
Maybe I'm on a soapbox, but the most beautiful part of relationships are the challenges--having the opportunity to solve problems as a couple.
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